Moving On

Good afternoon and welcome back to this afternoon's blog. Before I begin, I want to apologise for the delay in getting out the interview I promised you last week. A combination of technical issues and personal agendas has held things up, but I can assure you it will be worth it when it is finished. In the meantime, we have some positive news regarding the Covid vaccine. Hopefully this will be widely available within a few weeks and people can begin to think about going back to normal in the summer. However, that is in the future. Today's topic is all about moving on (hopefully moving on from Covid soon). Moving on can sometimes be very easy or it can be the hardest thing in the world. We need to understand whether moving on is the best thing for ourselves, even if it might not always be what we want.

When we think about moving on, we tend to think that we have to do this in a complete manner and one that allows a clean slate for everyone. This is not the case. Moving on is often easier by telling yourself that it is a temporary situation. Life is a very funny thing that throws up surprises every single day. Every single day throws up a million different possible outcomes which we can only control a miniscule percentage of these. Life is weird and wonderful on so many levels so we should never say never. Anything, regardless of how distant it might seem in a particular moment, is possible. There are a lot of things about life that we lose forever. There are exceptions to this fact - hope and belief. We can always believe that something might happen, nobody can ever take our hope away from us.

When we do decide to move on from a situation, you need to be selfish. I have said before that we are the most important people to ourselves, and it difficult situations we have to put ourselves ahead of anybody else. We need to think about our mental health, our desired outcomes, as well as weighing up what is best for us at that time. Sometimes we might be trapped between a rock and a hard place. We might want one outcome, however, when we look at the bigger picture we realise that this is not the right thing for us at that time. It is a decision that we all have to make - what is the best thing for us versus what we want to happen. This can be a serious mental, emotional and physical drain so do not prolong this process. Sometimes after a few weeks or months, the desired outcome might have changed.   

That is not to say, however, that we should completely disregard the feelings or desires of other people involved. This can form an important aspect of our decision making process. If we think that one outcome could cause a divide or unwanted feelings to people that you care about, sometimes it is easier and less stressful on everyone if we move on. Again this does not mean that we forget about people forever, Whether it be friends, family members, work colleagues or anyone else, each individual has an impact on our lives. If this impact has been a positive one, then we should still think about people's feelings to show that we still respect them and care about them. The feeling might not be reciprocated, but that is not the point here. If you think something is worth pursuing, pursue it with confidence. You might want to take a break before trying again, or move on completely if you believe this is the best thing for yourself. 

Whilst moving on is one of the hardest things to do in life, it is also one of the most significant. Our time on the planet is the equivalent to a single grain of sand on the beach. Once that grain of sand has dissolved it can never come back. We have to be kind to ourselves, and sometimes that might mean being harsh first. You have to tell yourself you are doing the right thing whether you believe it or not. Be strong and always remember that everything is fixable with time, space and a bit of luck (take the good luck when it arrives).

Connor

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