the 1

Good afternoon and welcome back to this afternoon's blog. I have no doubt that many of you will not read this until tomorrow morning after you recover from the first night back at the pub. And in all honesty that is fine. Go out and meet friends and family, have a drink, try to stay warm but please also remember to follow the rules for the good of everyone. We are a little over two months away from a potentially normal life; let's not risk going backwards now. Before we get into the meat of today's topic, I can hear you all screaming "your title hasn't got a capital letter" and "you used the number 1 instead of the word one". Let me explain - this blog has nothing to do with Taylor Swift but since you all expect references in my work I thought I would put one right up the top. So now you are all wondering "what do you mean by the 1?"

Have you ever been in that position where you experience lots of dates or meeting people, lots of messaging back and forth on dating websites but keep getting disappointed? Anyone who says no is either lying or are extremely lucky (trust me you're lucky). It's a sad element of dating and therefore a sad element of life itself. However, dating websites such as Match definitely have a place in our society. While I agree it is frustrating and demoralising sending a hundred messages to get just one back, that one message could be the 1 (see the meaning to the title now)? All the time and financial commitment, all the millions of times you have swiped left or right suddenly seems worth it but remember this is literally the first step up Mount Everest; there are hundreds of hurdles on your journey ahead. The hardest thing to remember is how often an initial reaction can be proven wrong. All you have to base your decision on is a few pictures and maybe a brief bio description. Sometimes this can be enough; a feeling that recently I have had the absolute pleasure of feeling.

The feeling of potentially having found the 1 is a complete mix of feelings and emotions; happiness, joy, confusion, apprehension, nervousness among many others. It's a big step forward in anyone's life and should be treated with time, consideration and to a degree, caution. It is at this moment that I want to express the real meaning of this article. It is not to find the 1 for a one night stand, it is to find the 1 for life. Someone you will go through the different stages with - dating, labelling your relationship, making it public, marriage, family and all that jazz that comes with it. Your mind naturally starts wondering off into the future; five years time will you be married, how many kids will you have, is this person the 1 for me are all completely natural questions to be asking yourself. You all know how dating works by now so to avoid going down a very controversial path (wouldn't be the first time honestly) all I'll say is we have a gut for a reason. It gives us feelings. More often than not it is right.

Unfortunately, life can not guarantee that everyone will find the 1. Having lots of money, driving a flash car and being boss of a multi-million pound company might satisfy a select handful of individuals, but most people are looking for something more than that. Apart from the fact that it might not make you as happy because it pushes people away, people are more likely to stay away. And yes, I am aware that some people like those who show-off or put on a false front that they're big and strong and important, but again the average person just wants someone they click with and they will enjoy spending time with. Focus on your own life and make sure that you have everything in shape first; this will be a true reflection of yourself and a potential partner can judge you for who you really are. Don't be a horror movie behind a comedy script, be yourself and find someone who loves you for that.

Recently I have found someone who I genuinely believe could be the 1 for me. Her name is Sssssss (you didn't actually expect that did you) and she is honestly the kindest, friendliest and most beautiful girl inside and out that I have ever met. Although it is still comparatively early, to say we want the same from life would be an understatement. We are on the same line of the same page of the same book and my life has become so much happier and fuller for it. I feel a much better person already for just having her in my life. And yes I have asked myself all the above questions along with a lot more. I lay awake at night thinking and dreaming about her, just praying that I don't do or say anything totally dumb and amateur to throw her off the scent. I pray that I can spend the rest of my life with this person and hopefully I can make them just as happy as they make me.

Now you have seen Connor's heart and soul poured out on the Internet for all to see, remember that finding the 1 is a process, a journey that you have to be on together. Honesty, open communication and support I believe is half the battle won.

Connor

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